Arun, an acquaintance of mine, called me the other day after he had read a post on my blog. He wanted to discuss a relationship that he was wondering about. A former classmate, let’s call him Gautam, called Arun over for a meeting of old friends. Arun accepted the invitation, and casually told Gautam that he had stopped drinking. Gautam then told him, “Please don’t come. You will make us all uncomfortable!”
Arun was naturally shocked. He told me, that Gautam was also rude enough to ask him personal questions like what his salary was, etc. Then Arun said something that really struck me. He said: ” I have made investments of time and money to develop myself and improve my personality, whereas Gautam is stuck at where we were in our college days. And yet he wants to compare himself with me.” Arun was not boasting – it was just a statement of fact. And having known him for a few years, I knew it was true.
I thought how much like the Ant and the Grasshopper. The ant worked hard, while the grasshopper played and then the grasshopper expected to have the same results when winter came.
Sometimes we tend to envy people who seem to be very successful. They seem to have it all together: a great family, good friends, a successful business/job. They seem to be unstressed and at peace with themselves. And we kid ourselves into thinking, ‘Oh, they just got lucky’ or ‘That was easy for that person, s/he didn’t have the problems I did’. Do we look under the surface, to see what how much of time and effort that person has invested to achieve what they have? We might be surprised when we do. What you will that is that these people are committed to achieving their full potential. They are walking the path of personal development.
‘But isn’t personal development something that just happens with age?’ you ask. No, certainly not.
Personal development is first and foremost a decision to commit yourself to realizing your own potential. It means that you have to commit to re-aligning your life to your goals. It means having to change ways of thinking and behaving. It means, that you have to grow up!
Sounds like a lot of work? Not really.
Once you set yourself on this journey of personal development, you will find, as I have, that things will steadily fall into place and growth will cease to be work, but will become a pleasure.
The moment one definitely commits oneself then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issue from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings, and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would come his way. ~ Goethe
Committing to personal development is committing to being You – the best possible YOU. Why would you not want to commit to that?
This post first appeared on Larry Lewis’ Healthy Lifestyle Living